For those who are practicing neural retraining, it can be really difficult to perfectly balance all our responsibilities – from maintaining our neural retraining program and managing our household to caring for others or overseeing finances.
All of this juggling can feel frustrating and exhausting, and can even lead to feelings of failure. This can trigger the limbic system into a state of fight, flight, or freeze. This heightened state of alertness is contrary to the calm required for the body to activate the healing response.
Using self-directed neuroplasticity to calm the limbic system is essential, as it helps shift the body from a state of survival to one of healing and recovery. But when we take on too much, our nervous system perceives these excess commitments as threats, reinforcing a cycle of stress and discomfort that can exacerbate symptoms. It is crucial, then, to be selective about the commitments we choose to keep.
Strategic quitting—saying no to those tasks and obligations that overextend us—doesn’t just reduce stress; it actively contributes to our healing process. By prioritizing activities that foster calm and stability, we support our body’s innate ability to heal itself, making each decision to say no a deliberate step towards better health and increased well-being.
With this in mind, saying no becomes a powerful tool in our neural retraining program. It allows us to conserve energy, reduce stress, and maintain a more stable environment for healing.
Letting go of tasks that no longer serve us, or that we can’t reasonably handle, is an act of self-compassion. By quitting intentionally—not out of defeat or frustration but with the understanding that we deserve self-care—we can focus on what truly matters for our wellness and healing.
Remember, every time we say “yes” to something, we’re also saying “no” to something else.
Here are five tips to help you prioritize your commitments and recognize when it’s time to let go:
1. Identify those activities that are no longer serving you.
Take a few minutes to reflect on your current commitments and obligations. Which ones leave you feeling drained, frustrated, or unfulfilled? Are there tasks that have become routine but no longer hold meaning or value? By identifying these activities, you can start to see where quitting can open the door to new opportunities.
2. Prioritize what matters most to you.
Defining and prioritizing your values is crucial as it helps you navigate life’s choices with clarity. Think of your values as your personal north star—those guiding principles that steer your decisions and actions toward what truly fulfills you. Think about whether your current commitments align with these values. If you find certain tasks or obligations that don’t enhance or resonate with what brings you fulfillment, consider letting them go. By focusing on activities that align with your core values, you create more room for what truly matters in your life.
3. Practice saying “No”.
It’s tough to say no, especially when we worry about disappointing others. Practice using phrases like, “I’m not able to commit to this right now,” or “I need to focus on my own priorities.” You don’t have to offer a long explanation or apologize for putting your well-being first.
4. Fourth is to set boundaries with self-compassion.
Setting boundaries can feel uncomfortable, especially if you’re used to putting others first. Remind yourself that your needs are just as important as anyone else’s. Allow yourself the grace to decline commitments that could interfere with your self-care and healing journey.
5. Reframe quitting as making space.
So instead of seeing quitting as giving up, think of it as creating room for better things. When you say no to draining or unfulfilling obligations, you say yes to more opportunities for your own self-care, joy, and wellness.
Quitting strategically is a conscious choice to live in alignment with your true priorities. So remember, saying no is not about being selfish or neglecting others; it’s about showing up for yourself with intention and compassion. By quitting the things that no longer have meaning for you, you’re making space for a life that aligns with your values and supports your healing journey.
What’s one commitment you’re considering letting go of in order to relax and calm your limbic system? And, how do you think this change will impact your wellness journey? I’d love to hear what you come up with.
No matter where you are in your wellness journey, I’m glad you’re here. And know that I’m here cheering you on.
